When you get engaged usually every recent engaged bride
feels like they are on cloud 9 & nothing in this world could possibly go
wrong!! Every bride wants to shout from the rooftops and show off the snazzy
new engagement ring that her new fiancé gave her! But … BE CAREFUL! I’m not
kidding - every single close girl friend that you share your ring with will automatically
think they will be in or apart of your wedding! Each friend will be secretly
thinking, “I better be in your wedding” or “they must have a really good
reason why I wouldn't be!”
You can probably figure out this blog is about picking the
right & perfect wedding party/bridemaids. There are so many things you have to
consider before deciding your wedding party. That is why I am here to tell you the
quick & easy way to decide your perfect wedding party, without thinking way
too much into it!
1st - You and your fiancé need to sit down
together one night – maybe having a glass of wine or 2 while deciding who you
want in your wedding party. Start creating a list of friends & family that
you would want to stand up and REPRESENT you two as a couple on your wedding
day! Honestly – The people you choose to be in your wedding party totally
reflects you two as a couple!
This is how I would start creating your list:
1)
Brothers
& Sisters
2)
Best
Friends (High School Friends, College Friends, Work Friends)
3)
Close
Family Members
Now ask yourselves the following questions:
1)
Are
you or already have been in their Wedding?
If not… you just made things easier on you! CUTT!!!
2)
Can
you see yourselves being friends with them in 10 years?
If you can’t picture them being apart of
your lives later on – than why would you have them in wedding party?!
3)
Have you
been friends with them for more than a couple years?
Honestly – your friends in your wedding
party should be life long friends. You want your wedding guests to know whom
each person is in your wedding party. You don’t want your wedding guests thinking,
“who the hell is that” during the wedding ceremony!
4)
Do
you like each other’s bridal party choices?
If one of you has an issue or clashes with
someone in the wedding party, than its not going to be fun on your wedding day!
Both of you need to take that into inconsideration for each other, because if
you can’t stand someone in your wedding party… than that person will rain on
your parade that day!
5) Will
everyone in your wedding party get along?!
This is huge! Think about it – you spend so
much time with one another, you will have multiple parties celebrating your
upcoming wedding day! Engagement Parties, Bachelorette, Bachelor, Wedding
Showers, Groom’s Dinner, and even the Wedding Day! If they all get along – that
is just wonderful! If not – than decide who is most important and axe someone
off the list!
Now lets talk about Numbers – Meaning – How many people will
be in your bridal party! Right up front – 8 people on each side is way too
many! 7 people on each side is kind of pushing it, but 7 people on each side is
where I draw the line! Anything smaller is ideal! Well … if you only have 1
person on each side, well that just looks like you have no friends. Come on
this is when you want to show off your friends and family to all your wedding
guests! Make them look good and have them make you two look good! You two also
have to consider how many brothers and sisters will be on each side? I know
there are those families that have tons of brothers/sisters and have no room
for friends, but I still think you have to work with the lucky number 7 on each
side. Think about it – you will have at least 16 people standing up during the
ceremony and that's not even incorporating the junior bridesmaids, flower girl,
and ring bear. AND - the bigger the
wedding party, the more money you will have to spend too! That is more dresses,
shoes, tuxes, flowers, presents, etc. Smaller the number, the more you can
spend on other things for the wedding.
Personal attendants – where to begin? Honestly I don’t think
you need them. Yes they are nice to have to wait on you hand and foot on your
wedding day, but that is what your bridesmaids are there for. Truthfully -
Personal Attendants always look awkward or pissed off because they aren’t in
the wedding. So you will be doing them a favor by not asking them to be your
personal attendant! They rather just have a good time at your wedding and not
have any assigned duties! Your bridesmaids should be the ones to wait on you
hand and foot, because they are your best friends. They are the ones that know
you better and will know exactly what you will need on your wedding day without
asking them to do anything! Your bridesmaids can totally handle those duties
that a personal attendant usually does – making sure you don’t forget anything
at the ceremony, help bustle your dress and even help you go to the
bathroom. Your bridesmaids are your go
to girls up to and on your wedding day!
Flower Girl & Ring Bear – If you have a little ones a
part of your life, than that is perfect! If you don’t have little ones in your
life right now than I wouldn’t bother in having them. Sometimes they are a lot
of work, if they are of age 3 and under.
They typically scream, cry, run around or make a huge scene during the ceremony
- YUCK! If you think the kid and the parents can handle it, than I think
everything will turn out okay and everything will be perfectly fine! I really
recommend Age 5 to age 8. Over age 8 is
getting too old and anything younger than that is too young! Seriously little
ones can stress you out on your wedding day, and you really don't want that!
I hope all of this is helpful with deciding who you want to
represent you two as couple on your wedding day! If your not feeling confident
with your wedding party decision, than I wouldn’t share with anybody until you
know who exactly you want in your wedding party. Of course you want everyone involved and you
don't want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but you have to be selfish right now!
Just try to imagine yourself with who you want to celebrate with on your perfect
wedding day! Piece of cake right
I could go on and on about the little other important
positions and details that you can or could add to your wedding party, but I will save that
for another blog! Have a great day & see you next week!
Love ~
Savvy WP
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